Philosophy 03
On Leading Remotely
I’ve been fortunate to make a career as a technology executive since 2015 while working entirely from our home in central Washington. As an autistic person, I’ve found that remote work is an absolutely critical ingredient to help me maintain composure for my people. It’s not that I cannot work effectively in-person as I did at companies such as Boeing, Amazon, and Microsoft; but working remotely makes me more effective.
At RealSelf and elsewhere I've helped move whole organizations to remote-first, and the words turn out to matter more than people expect. Remote-friendly usually means distributed offices with an office-first culture still underneath — decisions get made where the building is, and so do promotions. Remote-first means the building isn't where decisions happen. Remote-only is a third thing again, and not one I'd insist on: an office is a fine place to gather, so long as it stays optional.
Five habits do most of the work.
Discipline
Nobody is going to pace you. I've taken more from Fred Rohé's The Zen of Running than from any management book: run at the pace that's actually yours, and the distance takes care of itself. I can sprint a mile far faster than my eight-and-a-half-minute pace and I'd wreck the race doing it. Work is the same — clear start and end times, a short list of goals you actually name each day, and the honesty to stop when you said you would. Burnout at home is quieter than burnout in an office, which is exactly what makes it dangerous.
Collaboration, not just cooperation
Cooperation is polite. Everyone stays in their lane, hands off clean work, and nobody's feelings get bruised. Collaboration is messier — you get into each other's drafts, disagree in the open, and rework things together. Remote defaults to cooperation because it's the lower-friction path, so you have to push against that on purpose. When a thread starts to get pointed, get on a call before it hardens. Text is a terrible medium for disagreement.
Vulnerability
We are, quite literally, inside each other's homes. Kids wander in, dogs bark, and it's obvious when someone is having a hard week. You end up seeing more of the real person than you ever would across a conference table — and that only works if you're willing to be seen too. I've been open about being autistic partly for this reason: I'm asking people to bring their actual selves to a video call, and that isn't a fair ask if I won't.
Real time still matters
Remote-first is not the same as asynchronous. At Lium we're on Zoom three to four hours a day, three days a week — not in meetings, just available to each other, the way you would be if we shared a room. Open rooms beat scheduled ones. Most of the value is in the unscheduled question, the one nobody would have bothered to write down.
Agree on a shared time band
That last habit only works if people are awake at the same time — but that's about overlap, not geography. At Lium we have people in Poland and in Sri Lanka. We don't restrict where we hire; we're explicit that the work happens inside the majority team's band, and we ask each person to tell us honestly whether that's sustainable for them. It's their call, not ours. If the answer is no, we're not the right fit — and it's far kinder to find that out in the interview than six months in. The cost here is real, and it lands on the individual rather than the company. Worth saying out loud.
Remote-first is not a policy you announce. It's a set of habits you have to actually hold.
I've written about this at more length
An article I wrote for GeekWire in response to some of the backlash to remote work. Remote work is not a panacea, but I’ve developed some very practical tips that anyone can use to find their mojo in a remote world.
I wrote this a few months into the COVID-19 pandemic to share my many years of experience working 100% remotely as a technology executive. At the time, everyone was new to remote working and struggling to find their stride.
A companion piece on how to create culture when everyone is working remotely. Maybe not too surprisingly, creating culture in a remote-first environment is not different than in-person, albeit you need to be very conscious of everything you do.
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